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How to Make People Feel Like A Million Bucks


I remember after I first read this book, I couldn’t stop thinking about it for a long time. It was in my mind for months and it slowly became part of me. It was so fascinating to learn about people and different ways to connect and add value to them. This book is a must read, and I recommend it to all the leaders, managers, parents, teachers, and to anyone who works and interacts with people on a daily basis: “25 Ways to Win With People.” By Dr. John C. Maxwell. This book gave me some simple ideas with big impact that I would like to share with you today. Here are some of the notes I was able to gather on the book this weekend. I hope you enjoy reviewing them.

  1. Start with Yourself.

“Your relationships can only be as healthy as you are.” – Neil Clark Warren

Make yourself more valuable. “Increase your value to others by solving as many of your   problems as you can.”

  • Identify areas you need to improve in order to be more valuable to others and develop a plan to accomplish them.
  1. Practice the 30-Second Rule.

“He who waits to do a great deal of good at once, will never do anything.” – Samuel Johnson.

Give Others the Triple-A Treatment; Attention, Affirmation and Appreciation.

  • Within the first 30 seconds of a conversation, say something encouraging to a person.
  • To be successful at this, you have to plan to do it.
  1. Let People Know You Need Them.

“The greatest compliment that was ever paid me was when someone asked me what I thought, and attended to my answer.” – Henry David Thoreau

People need to be needed. They need to know they helped at a meaningful level.

“I have a dream and I need your help.”

  • Give up or get help…When your dream is bigger than you are, you only have two choices: give up or get help.
  • Inspire others to join in the dream by letting them know they are needed.
  1. Create a Good Memory and Visit it Often.

“Memory is the treasury and guardian of all things.” – Cicero

Few things bond people together like a shared memory. Soldiers who battle together, teammates who win a championship together, and work teams that hit their goals share a connection that never goes away.

  • Revisit existing positive memories with people.
  • Plan experiences to commemorate milestones and create mementos.
  1. Compliment People in Front of Other People.

“Admonish thy friends in secret, praise them openly.” – Publilius Syrus

“Encouragement is oxygen to the soul” ~George Matthew Adams

When you compliment someone’s attitudes you can reinforce that attitude and make it more consistent.

  • Find/create opportunities to do so.
  • “Who can I spotlight in front of others?”
  1. Give Others a Reputation to Uphold.

“Treat a man as he appears to be and you make him worse. But treat a man as if he already were what he potentially could be, and you make him what he should be.” – Goethe

Old negative names, labels, or nicknames can block a person’s growth and progress. Give people a new name that can give them hope, and speaks to their future.

  • Start by asking “What is special/unique about this person?”
  1. Say the Right Words at the Right Time.

“No man has a prosperity so high or firm, but that two or three words can dishearten it; and there is no calamity which right words will not begin to redress.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Forget about what you want to say and ask yourself what you would like to hear if you were in the other person’s shoes.

  • “… the wrong words said at the wrong time .. discourage me ..
  • … the wrong words said at the right time .. frustrate me ..
  • … the right words said at the wrong time .. confuse me ..
  • … the right words said at the right time .. encourage me.”

Proverbs 25:11 (NCV) …“The right word spoken at the right time is as beautiful as gold apples in a silver bowl.”

  1. Encourage the Dreams of Others.

“Keep away from people who belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.” – Mark Twain

Ask others to share their dreams with you.

Affirm the person as well as the dream.

Ask about the challenges they must overcome to reach their dreams. (RWG: This helps them solidify the steps they need to take to get there. Most people aren’t good at this.)

Offer your assistance.

Regularly revisit their dream with them.

Return to Step 1.

“Death’s not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside of us while we live” ~ Norman Cousins

  1. Pass the Credit on to Others.

“If each of us were to confess his most secret desire, the one that inspires all of his plans, all his actions, he would say: ‘I want to be praised.’ ” – E.M. Cioran

Check your ego at the door…Pass the credit ASAP!

  • John Wooden, a UCLA coach, taught his players when they scored a point to smile, wink, or nod at the player who gave them the pass.
  • Verbal praise in front of others is powerful, but written praise lasts.
  • Passing on credit changes the recipient’s brain chemistry and creates “an emotional stamp that forever associates you in their minds with their success.”
  • Ask yourself, “Who has made me more successful than I would have been on my own?”
  1. Offer Your Very Best.

“I do the very best I know how – the very best I can; and I mean to keep on doing so until the end.” – Abraham Lincoln

Make the most of your gifts and opportunities.

Everybody appreciates a person who gives his BEST!

  1. Share a Secret with Someone.

“Conceal not your secret from a friend, or you deserve to lose him.” – Portuguese Proverb

Sharing a secret makes people feel special and includes them in your journey.

  1. Mine the Gold of Good Intentions.

“To err is human; to forgive is not company policy.” – Unknown

People generally give you what you expect from them. Assume the best in the others…and see things from their perspective.

Forget about justice; instead, focus on grace and forgiveness.

  1. Keep Your Eyes off the Mirror.

“I don’t know what your destiny will be, but one thing I know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found how to serve.” – Albert Schweitzer

Serving others from a place of emotional health is a source of contentment.

” If you want happiness for an hour—take a nap. If you want happiness for a day—go fishing. If you want happiness for a month—get married. If you want happiness for a year—inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime—help others. ” – Chinese Proverb

  1. Do for Others What They Can’t Do for Themselves.

“You have not lived today until you have done something for someone who can never repay you.”         – John Bunyan

No matter how much or how little you think you have, you have the ability to do for others what they can’t do for themselves.

  • Introduce others to people they can’t know on their own.
  • Take others to places they can’t go on their own.
  • Offer others opportunities they can’t reach on their own.
  • Share ideas with others they don’t possess on their own.
  1. Listen with Your Heart.

“The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn’t being said.” – Peter Drucker

Unclog your ears and focus on the person. Listen aggressively…

Listen actively, create the win win situation.

  1. Find the Keys to Their Hearts.

“Coaches who can outline plays on a blackboard are a dime a dozen. The ones who succeed are those who get inside their players and motivate them.” – Vince Lombardi

Accept the fact that people are different.

Ask questions

  • What do they dream about, cry about, find joy in, value, and believe to be their strengths?
  • Establish common ground.
  • “Turn the key only when you can add value to that person.”
  1. Be the First to Help.

“After the verb ‘to love,’ ‘to help’ is the most beautiful verb in the world.” – Berth Von Suttner

Zig Ziglar said it very well:

“You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help enough other people get

what they want.”

A good question to ask is “How can I best serve this person?”

  1. Add Value to Others and Yourself.

“Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.” – Albert Einstein

Make yourself more valuable.

Value people.

Have a growth plan for yourself and others.

  1. Remember a Person’s Story.

“Many a man would rather you heard his story than granted his request.” – Phillip Stanhope, Earl of Chesterfield

The time taken in asking for and listening to someone’s story:

  • Will be entirely focused on them: their dreams, disappointments, interests, etc..
  • Will be enjoyed by that person.
  • Will give you insight into that person.
  • Will build a stronger relationship with that person.

If asking these types of questions is awkward for you, start practicing on people you’re not likely to see again, like cab drivers, waitresses, people in line.

Don’t interrupt: replace “That reminds me of…” with “Go on” or “I see”

Repeat back what you heard, “Let me see if I understand…”

Bring up some aspect of the person’s story the next time you see him.

  1. Tell a Good Story.

“The universe is made of stories, not atoms.” – Muriel Rukeyser

“People may not remember your name but they will always remember your story” ~Farshad Asl

Tell us a story rather than just relaying the facts.

The goal is connecting and sharing yourself, not just making yourself look good.

  1. Give with No Strings Attached.

“Life’s most persistent and urgent question is: What are you doing for others?” – Martin Luther King, Jr.

I would not be where I am if others had not given freely to me; others need me to do the same for them.

See the big picture and have an abundance mentality.

  1. Learn Your Mailman’s Name.

“Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.” – Dale Carnegie

S – Say the name 3 times in a conversation.

A – Ask a question about the name (eg. spelling), or person.

V – Visualize the person’s prominent physical or personality feature.

E – End the conversation with the name.

A person’s mood and self evaluation improve when another man remembers him personally.

“Good men must die, but death cannot kill their names..” ~Proverb

  1. Point Out People’s Strengths.

“The praises of others may be of use in teaching us, not what we are, but what we ought to be.” – August W. Hare

People add the most value in their strength zones.

People are more highly motivated when working in an area of strength.

  1. Write Notes of Encouragement.

“The power of words is immense. A well-chosen word has often sufficed to stop a flying army, to change defeat into victory, and to save an empire.” – Emile De Girardin

Notes are remembered long after the writer has forgotten them.

  • Take the time to handwrite personal notes on a regular basis.
  • A handwritten note is evidence of your investment in that person.
  • Written notes can have a long lasting effect; longer than an email.
  1. Help People Win.

“The most important measure of how good a game I played, was how much better I’d make my teammates play.” -Bill Russell, winner of more NBA championships than any other player

Give people HOPE

  • When you help somebody win, you will be that person’s friend for life.
  • Focus on the process, not just on the win. Don’t just hand him the win, help him win so next time maybe he can win on his own.


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Standing On The Shoulders of Giants


As far back as the twelfth century, we trace the use of this wonderful metaphoric expression:

“Standing on the shoulders of giants” which was a way to say, “Discovering truth by building on previous discoveries.”

Bernard of Chartres use to compare us to puny dwarfs perched on the shoulders of giants. He pointed out that we see more and farther than our predecessors, not because we have keener vision or greater height, but because we are lifted up and borne aloft on their gigantic stature.”

  • Bernard of Chartres was a twelfth-century French Neo-Platonist philosopher, scholar, and administrator.

Sir Isaac Newton also wrote, “If I have seen further it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.”

  • Born December 25, 1642 – an English physicist and mathematician who is widely recognized as one of the most influential scientists of all time and as a key figure in the scientific revolution.

Did you know that most successful leaders stand on the shoulders of giants?

It’s true. It applies more than ever in the current transformation of leadership. Leadership is handed down from one coach to another, building the continuation of leadership going back to the time of Christ.

When I was 19, I was coached by Mohammad Hasan Naser-eddin SAHEBZAMANI, researcher, writer, psychologist, teacher, speaker and linguist. He was considered to be one of the most brilliant philosophers in my native country who was not permitted by the government to write, speak or teach.

Despite the censorship, I was fortunate to attend some of his private, small group sessions, and in time, got to know him. He enriched my thinking and helped me understand the value of critical thinking, challenging the status quo, expanding the thought process, not accepting things at face value, learning to explore and delve deeper, and remain humble throughout life. I owe him my gratitude because he enabled me to understand my core values. Eventually I had to leave my country, but will always cherish the wisdom he shared and the path that has led to where I am today. His books are timeless and I still enjoy reading them despite the fact that they were written 35-40 years ago.

My quest for growth and coaching has taken me worldwide to include inspirational leaders such as Les Brown, Brian Tracy and Nick Vujicic. In the last few years it has brought me to know Dr. John C. Maxwell and his team. Dr. John C. Maxwell fuels my passion for transformational leadership and teaches that “you cannot just grow older, you got’ ta grow yourself. Stand on the shoulders of giants and learn from the best.”

“A leader is one who sees more than others see, who sees farther than others see and who sees before others see.”

Leroy Eims

Now the question is who is coaching you? Do you believe in having a coach? Do you see a need? Do you have time to be coached? Can you afford not to have a coach or mentor?

In our rapid paced society, where there isn’t enough time for any one thing, too many distractions, oversaturation, with too many options, maybe it’s time to evaluate what is needed to reach your next goal.

See if any of these indicators apply to you.

  1. If you feel overwhelmed and never seem to catch up
  2. If you are not achieving your goals year after year
  3. If your relationships are affected because of too much work
  4. You feel you lack getting things accomplished – working harder and not smarter just to survive

If your answer is YES to any of these situations, get help. This isn’t a sales pitch, it’s identifying a common challenge that many people share, with a simple solution.

What is the solution?

  1. Become a lifetime student. Stay open to learning.

“Learning is a treasure that will follow its owner everywhere.” ~Chinese Proverb

  1. Become part of a likeminded, positive group who can share in your ambition to succeed and get ahead. Be accountable to one another, challenge and share ideas.
  2. Hire a coach and stay with it.
  3. Take action and stop procrastinating.   Too much time is lost and only you can take ACTION to begin your success.
  4. Be intentional with your time. It’s okay to say NO to the things that are not getting you closer to your mission in life and say YES to the things that do.

The excitement of learning separates youth from old age. As long as you’re learning you’re not old.

– Rosalyn S. Yalow

Let me share what I have learned, standing on the shoulders of giants:

  1. They are lifelong learners
  2. They give more than they get…they are like a river not reservoir
  3. They form good habits and they stay laser focused
  4. They put others first
  5. They stay humble
  6. They feed their soul, spirit and body and maintain a balanced life

Find a successful mentor, coach or a role model and start investing time on your own growth. You will be amazed with what you can accomplish in just the first year.

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New Year’s Resolutions and the 8% Achievers


I remember making my first New Year’s resolution which I promptly forgot by the second month back in 2007. This was the beginning of my writing things down. It was interesting how easy it was to make excuses, lose direction and sight of my vision. I let procrastination kick in, never feeling satisfied with the level of achievement. In 2009, I made up my mind to stop making excuses. It also meant trying new things and getting out of my comfort zone. The challenge was on.

I started to take a closer look at how I did things, challenge myself to trust that I could meet my objectives and realize I truly had passion for what I believed in. It was about adding value to everything and everyone around me.

By the middle of 2009, I formed the habit of writing articles, blogs, quotes, and journals, resulting in the publication of my first book in 2013. Since then, I have two additional books in the works, to be published in 2015. One of the rewarding New Year’s resolutions was starting a blog. Over the last two years, I’ve had the pleasure of sharing my thoughts and comments, reaching more than 5000 readers.

So take a moment and rank your Top 10 New Year’s resolutions for 2015. Some might include:

  1. Lose Weight
  2. Get Organized
  3. Spend Less, Save More
  4. Enjoy Life to the Fullest
  5. Get Fit and Stay Healthy
  6. Learn Something Exciting
  7. Quit Smoking
  8. Help Others Achieve Their Dreams
  9. Fall in Love
  10. Spend More Time with Family


A few facts**:

45% of all Americans usually make New Year’s Resolutions

17% of all Americans who infrequently make New Year’s Resolutions

38% of all Americans who absolutely never make New Year’s Resolutions

8% of all people who are successful in achieving their resolution

49% of all people are infrequent successful

24% never succeed to achieve their resolution each year

Typically, people who make resolutions are 10 times more likely to attain their goals than people who don’t. Out of these people, 8% are successful.

What does it take to be one of the 8% who succeed? Here’s my list.

  1. Burning Desire

They all have “Burning Desire” to do whatever it takes to get the job done. There’s no hesitation or excuses regardless of circumstance.

  1. Visualization

They visually see what they want to achieve in their mind. If you can’t picture the outcome, it will be difficult to achieve desired results.

  1. Life by Design

They believe in “Life by Design” versus life by default. You gain so much more if you carefully plan rather than let circumstance take over. Without “Life by Design”, it’s hard to break out of the viscous circle that takes over, causing you to feel you’re too busy solving problems and playing catch up.

  1. Power of Three

They understand the value of being laser focused on 3 tasks/projects each day. Keep a list of three things to be accomplish in a timely manner. This includes a “To Stop List” which intentionally works on ridding yourself of bad habits that are time consuming and reduces productivity.

  1. No Fear Mindset

This is the mindset that must be developed at all costs.

  • No fear of sharing your resolution
  • No fear of taking risks
  • No fear of going the extra mile
  • No fear of taking on challenges that may make you, leading to a comfortable life
  • No fear of waking up excited and inspired
  • No fear of being responsible for your choices
  • No fear of working hard
  • No fear of helping others succeed
  • No fear of failing and moving forward
  • No fear of being the best that God wants you to be
  1. Bold Print

They have the resolution in BOLD PRINT and visible everywhere and at any time.

  1. Reward Driven

Making sure that they list all the rewards to achieve the resolution by the deadline and the list of consequences if not met.

Your challenge is to take your New Year’s resolution to a whole new level. Write your list down in “BOLD PRINT” with everything you want to accomplish in 2015. Make it visible and be sure to share your resolutions with everyone. Keep the rewards and consequences in front of you and enjoy achieving them. The feeling to succeed is amazing rather than the excuses and guilt of falling short of your dreams. Make this the beginning of a truly great year.

Wishing you a Happy New Year for 2015!

** University of Scranton. Journal of Clinical Psychology

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The Art of Coaching



I was looking for someone to help me, but didn’t have ‘the one’ person I was looking for who could lead me in the right direction until I sat down and defined what it was I needed. I narrowed it down to three options. Did I need a Teacher? A Mentor? Or a Coach?

Others have defined coaching as, “Closing the gap between thinking about doing and doing” – Curly Martin

I have often wondered what the difference was between these three. Without looking up the definitions in the dictionary, I would say they are similar.

I had to admit that I wasn’t exactly sure what they meant but understood the importance of having one. So I got busy and developed these definitions.

Teachers instruct using a textbook or reference materials to provide lessons. This is a very important role when you’re learning a subject or profession.


Mentors share in their wisdom and experience. They are willing to spend their time and expertise to guide the development of another person.


Coaches guide and/or train someone who is trying to excel in a specific area, i.e., an athlete, an actor, a business professional, etc. I’ve found that this term is often mixed up with mentoring, so I used one of the best-known examples I could find as an example for a Coach.


Coach John Wooden, UCLA’s brilliant basketball coach, was famous for his style of coaching and building brilliant athletes. John Wooden is frequently cited as an example of a values- based coach, one who’s positive and productive principles were intrinsically woven into his system. What he did on the court reflected who he was off the court.


I wanted someone like that and also knew I needed someone who would Coach me for my needs. To Coach is all about asking the right questions. It’s amazing to know the power of “question probing”. Coaches know ‘what to ask’, ‘when to ask’, ‘how to ask’ and ‘who to ask’ great questions to take you from where you are now to where you want to be. ”A good Coach asks great questions to help you remove the obstacles in your mind and to get you back on track in life and business” – Farshad Asl

According to the Harvard Business Review, a good coach can help you achieve life-changing results that yield success and significance.

The right coaching builds awareness and removes interference so you can perform at your natural best with NO EXCUSES! The formula is:

Your God-given Potential – Excuses = Performance for Success!

It was Benjamin Franklin who said, “He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.” Coaching will help you replace those excuses and limited beliefs with empowering dreams and boost self-confidence. Coaching is all about moving forward. Changing your old habits and developing true self-awareness.

“Helping you do your best” – Harry Paul

Coaching can help you to identify your values, discover your “why”, set ‘GOALS’, increase your self-esteem, and finding the balance in Life and Business.

Noting what Coaching is, I wanted to be sure I defined what coaching is NOT. Coaching is not Therapy, Mentoring, Consulting, Counselling or Problem Solving. That probably best falls under ‘self-help’.


When I Coach others, I normally like to use the TGROW model in my sessions.

  • Topic – clarification and exploration of the topic
  • Goal – setting specific goals, whether they are long, medium or short term, and can be used in the coaching session
  • Reality – clearly understanding where the ‘Coachee’ is now in relation to their goals
  • Options – exploring options for the purpose to move forward
  • Wrap- Up, -Will, -Way Forward – identifying and agreeing to a specific action plan


I strongly believe in the concept of coaching so much that I’ve chosen to be personally coached over the last several years and personally use the TGROW model. You might be surprised to find that fewer than one in 1,000 people have been or benefit from being coached. Are you ready to begin?

“Unlocking a person’s potential to maximize their own performance” – John Whitmore

Breakthrough all the barriers and start leading your life rather than just accepting your life.

“People are anxious to improve their circumstances but are unwilling to improve themselves, they therefore remain bound.” James Allen

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Close to my Heart – L • E • G • A • C • Y


LEGACY. Typically when we think of the meaning, we often think of something old or left behind. Maybe something of monetary value. An inheritance perhaps.
When I pulled out my trusty Merriam Webster dictionary, it provided the usual information that LEGACY is a noun and means “money or property left to someone in a will.” Another source, the online Bing dictionary referenced something similar. 1. Bequest made in a will; 2. Something from the past; 3. Outdated or discontinued.

Hmmm, I was still looking for a different description that provided a newer concept. Let me explain. When I think about leaving a LEGACY, it takes on a whole new meaning. It pertains to now and how it can be used for development. LEGACY is a word I hold close to my heart. It is part of my being and pertains to leadership and developmental growth.

Simply said, “LEADERS today leave a LEGACY tomorrow.”

I believe LEGACY is an important partner with Leadership. To cultivate the spirit of leadership and develop that which inspires others to act with passion and lead with integrity as it means to transform life’s results in leaving a LEGACY.

“Leadership” – “Everything rises and falls on Leadership” – John Maxwell
Leaders are defined by the following characteristics found in Legacy.


Often the perception is that to be a leader, you’re older and experienced. Something that occurs towards the end of your life. Not true. LEGACY plays an important role in defining a good leader at any age. Leadership is not only about producing results or measuring success with statistics. Leadership is doing something with significance that makes families, organizations, societies, nations and the world a better place before you die.

“Leaders lead while inspiring with incorporating and building upon people’s confidence.”
“Example is not the main thing in influencing others, it is the only thing.” – Albert Schweitzer
“Don’t find comfort in being followed because you’re feared, but rather, be followed because you’re respected. That’s true leadership.” – Unknown

“Enthusiasm” – “People who intensely believe in their purpose to leave a legacy behind.”
They have the ability to spread their positive outlook and a readiness to take action, involving all who come in contact with them. It’s the difference of being laser focused on what can be done instead of allowing inertia to set in. Enthusiastic people take action rather than setting up roadblocks or distractions. What helps grow enthusiasm and build on the momentum is to have a clear vision of what motivates you to remain focused.

“Generosity” – “Generosity is a strength, not a weakness.”
Generous leaders are confident and giving of themselves and their knowledge. The gain is not financial, it’s in growth and sharing. Generosity, when freely given, empowers people to receive what they truly want, knowledge, credit for their actions, praise for their efforts, responsibility because they’re capable and the authority because they’ve earned your trust. Generous leaders have faith in others to succeed. In turn, they receive ten-fold, loyalty, commitment, and a positive outcome.
“Authenticity” – “It’s not what you tell people but how you make them feel.”
I believe Leadership is a verb, not a noun when you factor in authenticity. An authentic leader’s role encompasses active participation with their team. Expressing strength and confidence to lead with their hearts, not only with their minds. Authentic Leaders are not afraid to show emotion and vulnerability as they share in the challenges with the team. Also critical to authentic leadership is to develop a solid foundation of trust with open and honest communication. It’s surprising to me when leaders lacking authenticity are surprised to find team members unhappy and leave.

“Outstanding leaders go out of the way to boost the self-esteem of their personnel. If people believe in themselves, it’s amazing what they can accomplish.” –Sam Walton

“Compassion” – “The secret to long-term relationships is providing kindness, caring and love.”
As a leader our purpose is to provide knowledge and generate trust through kindness. This will provide a foundation that allows others to make choices, right or wrong, and grow in a positive manner from the experience. Taking the time to go the extra mile when needed is the best way to develop solid leadership. Compassion is that special element that is often missed and makes the difference in building a positive environment.

As you can see, it’s very important to leave a legacy.

“Youthfulness” – We often think that leadership is something that only occurs when you’re older.”
Successful leaders leave a legacy behind at any age. The “Y” in legacy is to remind us that our future leaders are young and energetic, full of new ideas and eager to embrace the vision and principles of Leadership. Leaving a legacy is for all ages, developing everyone, our future leaders in society, our country and the world.

“You may ask why I’m so passionate about leadership and creating a legacy. It’s simple, to influence others positively so that the next generation of leaders can leave their legacy.” – Farshad Asl

The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth

John C. Maxwell , speaker, communicator, pastor and author of over 60 books on leadership, inspires us for the journey through the fifteen invaluable laws of growth. I read it and I really loved it!

This third book in John Maxwell’s Laws series (following 2-million seller The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership and The 17 Indisputable Laws of Teamwork) will help you become a learner and eventually a successful leader in life. When you are growing you are a much happier person with larger influence, with impact to people around you. The first step, however, is to make a conscious choice to grow yourself and that will boost your happiness.

John describes principles that help increase personal development and growth, explaining how to see existing value while still adding more and how to eliminate the tension between where you are and where you could be. This book is not about building a team, however, it’s about growing YOURSELF and the 15 laws of growth. Growth requires self-discipline and starts right here, right now! Here are the 15 laws of growth for your review:

  • The Law of Intentionality: Growth Doesn’t Just Happen.
  • The Law of Awareness: You Must Know Yourself to Grow Yourself.
  • The Law of the Mirror: You must See Value in Yourself to Add Value to Yourself.
  • The Law of Reflection: Learning to Pause Allows Growth to Catch Up with You.
  • The Law of Consistency: Motivation Gets you Going – Discipline Keeps You Growing.
  • The Law of Environment: Growth Thrives in Conducive Surroundings.
  • The Law of Design: To Maximize Growth, Develop Strategies.
  • The Law of Pain: Good Management of Bad Experiences Leads to Great Growth.
  • The Law of the Ladder: Character Growth Determines the Height of Your Personal Growth.
  • The Law of the Rubber Band: Growth Stops When You Lose the Tension Between Where You Are and Where You Could Be.
  •  The Law of Trade-Offs: You have to Give up to Grow Up.
  • The Law of Curiosity: Growth is Stimulated by asking Why?
  • The Law of Modeling: It’s Hard to Improve When You Have No One But Yourself to Follow.
  • The Law of Expansion: Growth Always Increases Your Capacity.
  • The Law of Contribution: Growing Yourself Enables You to Grow Others.

What is the cost of unfulfilled potential? It’s definitely very costly. I see that and I must strive every day to be the best I can every single day. If I don’t do that, then not only do I have unfulfilled potential, I am unfulfilled potential. This life is so short and so precious. We are all here for some purpose as unique as we are. The cost of this unfulfilled potential is so high. The best way I can put it is that “we miss out on our reason for being here”. I live my life as fully as I can because I believe that’s the most positive, meaningful way I can live it. Moreover, I live my life as fully as I can because I want to be sure I don’t get to the end of it with unfulfilled potential…I suggest to you that if there is unfulfilled potential in your life, do something to begin fulfilling it TODAY! The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth can be a great start!


~Farshad Asl


Farshad Asl